Narcissistic sure is a weird way to pronounce amazing. (Unknown)
Let’s keep this short, shall we? We’re going to talk social media for a quick minute. Now, for the most part, we know how to acknowledge compliments in real life, right? There are a number of ways to do this, but here are the most common two. Imagine this conversation between Gwen and Ralph:
Situation 1:Gwen: Hey Ralph! Nice haircut; it really brings out your eyes. Ralph: Thanks Gwen. I thought I would try something a little different. Gwen: Cool. Do you–ahh–want to go out sometime? Ralph: Oh…I appreciate you asking, but I don’t like you in that way… Gwen: Oh. Kay, bye.
See how Ralph politely acknowledged Gwen’s compliment about his hair? That is one way we receive compliments in everyday conversations.
Situation 2:Gwen: Hey Ralph! Your shirt is awesome! I, too, love World of Warcraft. Ralph: Well, it’s an old shirt and I–uh–it was clean so… Gwen: Well, I like it. Ralph: Um, thanks.
While painfully awkward, this is a common way for people to answer compliments. It’s very self-deprecating and deflecting, but it is something that we do come across when offering up compliments.
Social media compliments are, on the other hand, a different beast.
The easiest way to get my point across is to use a very common example: profile pictures. I think we can all relate to this. You put up a new profile picture on, say, Facebook and you get a bunch of likes (which you do not have to acknowledge) and a number of nice comments. Here is where the question of whether or not to thank your friends comes up.
My answer is that it depends on the number of comments you receive. Are you Beyonce? Did you get hundreds of compliments? No? Then thank your friends for taking the time to type out a few kind words. If you get a whole bunch of compliments you don’t even have to thank each person, but every three or four people say “thanks everybody” or “you’re all so great, thanks”. Something, anything to tell your friends that you saw their compliments and you appreciate them. That is, after all, why we typically share flattering pictures of ourselves. Let’s not lie about it.
Too often I see profile pictures where there are tons of sweet and thoughtful comments posted and the person whose picture it is does not even acknowledge that they have seen them (which we totally know they have).
Of course this differs depending on if you’re on Instagram or Twitter or Facebook, but I think that saying “thank you” is always the classy thing to do. Put yourself in the shoes of your admirers. Wouldn’t you like your kind words to at least be acknowledged? Otherwise, why say anything?
Stay classy, friends,