Texting (1)

Texting  is a fundamentally sneaky form of communication, which we should despise, but it  is such a boon we don’t care. We are all sneaks now. (Lynne Truss)

I could write hundreds of posts on all the problems that texting has caused in society, but I’ll narrow it down (for now).

Is there anything worse than planning a nice evening or afternoon at a good restaurant only to spend the entire time sitting across the table from somebody who has his or her nose in a smartphone?

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been out for dinner and looked across the restaurant or bar to see a couple completely ignoring one another as they text. It’s weird! Why spend money and put on pants when you’re just going to sit there and text or play Candy Crush? Not only is it strange to see as an observer, but it is beyond careless to your date or friend. It has gotten so bad that some restaurants have taken it upon themselves to fix this social disgrace. A few different places offer discounts on meals for patrons who choose to leave their smartphones in a secure area away from the tables. This isn’t a bad idea, but the fact that texting is so much of a problem that restaurants are stepping in is ridiculous!

text ecard 1 for classy and true blogIf I were on a date and I’d spent hours primping and making myself look nice, I would feel really crappy if my guy turned out to be one of these super rude, texting fiends! What this kind of behaviour says is me is that my date doesn’t value our time together or is uninterested in what I have to say. That’s probably not the intention of my date, but his texting suggests otherwise.

I think that texting while spending time with someone just comes down to selfishness and not thinking about others. It’s not that texters are trying to be mean or ignore their friends and dates, it’s that they aren’t paying attention. Their needs come first. They’re too plugged-in and so their sense of urgency to reply to seemingly-unimportant contact is heightened because communication is instantaneous.

I’d like to clarify: I’m not saying that you can’t text during dinner or that you can’t answer important messages. I’m just saying that it is also important to respect the people you’re with and your time together.

If you’d like to learn/think more about texting etiquette, check out this link!

Because this is likely the first of a few texting posts, I’ve kept it short.

Stay classy and true,

Kassieboo

 

Works Cited

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Mckee, Maralee. “Seven Ways to Text with Graciousness and Savvy.” Manners Mentor Inc.: You at Your Best., 02 010 2013. Web. <http://www.mannersmentor.com/only-at-work/seven-ways-to-text-with-graciousness-and-savvy&gt;.

 

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Doors

Okay! So this is my very first post on Classy and True and I think that it would be best to start out with a very simple topic: Doors.

Imagine this: You’re walking across the parking lot at the grocery store when it suddenly starts to rain violently! You hurry toward the door, tripping slightly as your Toms (or whatever brand name of shoes you’re wearing) get caught on a crack. You don’t fall, but you’re getting wetter and wetter by the minute. On the bright side, you’re about ten steps away from the glorious dryness that is Safeway. You’ve got this. You’re good to go. You’re going to buy some organic almond milk, a bag of bananas, a loaf of gluten-free bread (I guess you’re trying to be healthy or whatever), and-okay, that chocolate bar on special right beside the till-and get the heck out of there. This is your plan. It is a good plan. But then you get to the door and a man checking Facebook on his phone is ahead of you. He pushes the door open for himself and you walk up behind him, assuming that a functioning member of society understands the convention of holding the door for the person behind him, and begin to walk through the door way when BAM!! The plexy glass and steel battering ram called a door slams against your arm and face. The man didn’t hold the door for you. Your entire trip is ruined by poor door etiquette.

When I walk through a door in a public place, I (a) wait to see if somebody else is waiting to walk out and let them go first, (b) hold an arm out behind me just in case anybody is coming through. It would be mean to let the door close on somebody. I feel like these are pretty simple concepts, but apparently they aren’t. I don’t know what it is with people today; maybe we’re in a constant state of late or maybe we’re over stimulated and have too much on our minds. Or maybe we just don’t care about each other. This last point seems to be the answer when a door closes on me or I run to catch the door after someone and they just let it close. I end up thinking to myself, maybe people are just jerks.

I’d like to believe that people aren’t jerks and that they are simply preoccupied with the growing amounts of information with which we are faced every day. This is easier to stomach.

There is also the possibility that maybe parents and society, in general, don’t teach manners anymore. My own parents worked to set a good example for my siblings and me and I’d like to think that I’m a polite and respectful person because of it.

I don’t let doors hit people and I thank those who do the same for me. Ultimately, it comes down to treating others as we want to be treated ourselves. If I don’t hold the door for somebody who has his or her arms full, then maybe somebody won’t hold the door for me when it’s pouring rain and I’ve got a stack of books in my arms.

Maybe that’s the way to inspire door etiquette: think of yourself and what you want and then project that onto your behaviour around other people. While this concept feels selfish, it also makes sense in a world where a lot of doors are opening and closing on a lot of innocent people.

Before I end this surely-stimulating discussion of door etiquette, I guess that it is important to mention an exception for door holding. Don’t hold a door for somebody who is too far away. If they are still halfway across the parking lot or street, then holding the door for them puts the burden on them to hurry up to catch your politeness. That’s crazy. It’s extremely awkward when I’m walking toward a building at school and I look ahead of me (like fifty meters) and somebody is holding the door and looking at me expectantly. I usually end up trotting to catch up and get through the door, but it makes both the holder and the enter-er feel awkward and sometimes annoyed. Not cool.

So next time you are on your phone watching Vine videos of cats as you walk through a doorway, take a glance over your shoulder and check to see if someone is behind you because it sucks to be hit in the face with a closing door.

Thanks for reading. I’ll be back soon!

Kassieboo